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Five Ways to Prepare for Your Divorce Mediation

If you have decided to dissolve your marriage, a mediated divorce settlement can save you time, money and heartache. But mediation can only succeed if the parties are invested in the process and want it to succeed. In mediation, as with so many other endeavors in life, preparation is the key. Here are five steps… Read More »

Five Tips for Child Custody Mediation

Child custody mediation usually occurs during a divorce, but unmarried parents can choose to resolve their custody issues through mediation, and divorced parents can go back to mediation when substantial changes to their circumstances require them to review and revamp their parenting plan. Whatever the circumstances of your child custody mediation, you can benefit from… Read More »

What to Expect from Your First Divorce Mediation Session

Many sources will tell you to prepare heavily for your first mediation session and to come armed with various financial documents so you can provide detailed support for your position on numerous issues. That does not reflect reality, and it’s also not constructive. Here’s what we at Solutions Divorce Mediation, Inc. want you to bring… Read More »

Three Things that Mediation Is Not…Plus a Couple More

In a recent article on, Justin Kelsey, a mediator certified by the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation, tries to dispel some misconceptions about mediation by explaining what mediation does not do. Mr. Kelsey does a good job describing why: Mediation is not arbitration — When two individuals are locked in a conflict, there’s a… Read More »

Five Factors to Weigh When Deciding to Try Divorce Mediation

Divorce can be costly, time-consuming and stressful. Fortunately, there are alternatives to adversarial litigation that can reduce your expenses and speed up the process. At Solutions Divorce Mediation, Inc., our professional family law mediators provide focused mediation services that deliver consistently excellent results. However, even the best mediators are going to have a tough time… Read More »

Can New Yorkers Really Serve Divorce Papers Through Facebook?

Can you adjust your status to “single” by serving divorce papers to your spouse’s Facebook account? Traditionalists might think it’s absurd to use social media to deliver court documents, but technology is rapidly changing the world, and standards for service of process are changing as well. Under perfect circumstances, personal service — actually handing a… Read More »

When Can a Parent Cry “Uncle” on Child Support?

In the neighborhoods of old New York, boys who were bested in a wrestling match were often forced to cry “Uncle!” before the victor would let them up. It was a point of pride to give everything you had before uttering the dreaded term, which amounted to an admission of defeat and a plea for… Read More »

Videotaping a Confrontational Ex at Pickup and Drop-off Times

If you dread picking up or dropping off your kids because your ex constantly gives you a hard time, videotaping the exchanges can prompt your ex to act more civilly or give you the evidence you need to get a contempt ruling in family court. You are within your rights to videotape activity in public…. Read More »

The Perils of Joint Tax Returns for Divorcing Couples

Many married couples file joint tax returns because they offer particular advantages, such as lowering the high-earner’s tax bracket, getting a higher income ceiling for Roth IRA contributions, and access to various tax credits and deductions. However, once you decide you’re going to divorce, there are significant issues you must consider before agreeing to file… Read More »

What Happens When a Couple Can’t Afford a Law Guardian?

If you are engaged in a contentious child custody dispute, the judge may appoint a separate attorney to represent your children. This advocate used to be called a law guardian but today is known as the attorney for the child. Their job is to present your children’s preferences to the court, or, if they feel… Read More »