How to Emotionally Prepare for Divorce Mediation

Even amicable divorces can be emotionally difficult. While mediation is a more collaborative process, it can still become charged. Spouses may find themselves sad, hurt or outraged at their ex’s conduct. However, it’s important not to rise to the bait. Here’s how to emotionally prepare for mediation and stay calm during the sessions.

• • Ask for a break: If you feel like you’re losing control of your emotions or the session isn’t productive, don’t hesitate to ask for a break. Practice a few “exit lines” before the session so it feels natural.

• • Choose your battles: Although divorces can make it feel like every little issue is a hill worth dying upon, that’s usually not the case. Before the sessions, consider what you could stand to let go, and what’s truly non-negotiable. Avoid the temptation of trying to avenge yourself. Instead, focus on reaching a fair agreement.

• • Take a deep breath: It might sound like a cliché, but deep breaths are calming. When discussions get heated, take a deep breath and pause before answering.

• • Find a healthy outlet: Finding a healthy outlet for your negative emotions will go a long way toward keeping you calm in the mediation session. Journaling, exercise, therapy and other solutions can help you release negativity toward your ex and the divorce process.

• • Look at the big picture: Even if your divorce is difficult now, the grief and other negative emotions won’t always be so raw. Look at the big picture and decide what your life to look like later. Whether it’s a civil co-parenting relationship or moving on to a more suitable partner, having big picture goals can help you keep sight of what’s most important.

To learn more about divorce mediation, call the trusted Long Island divorce mediators at Solutions Divorce Mediation today.