Divorce Mediation Isn’t Always for Everyone
There are a lot of major benefits to using divorce mediation to separate from your spouse. The biggest benefit is that it gives you control over the outcome of your divorce, and over how you will settle each individual issue. Rather than leaving your fate in the hands of an arbitrator or judge, you and your spouse get to work together to decide on arrangements that will actually work for you.
In addition, divorce mediation is in a private setting. This means all of the issues that discuss stay between you, your spouse and the mediator. Compare this to divorce court, which is a matter of public record. Chances are you’d rather not have your dirty laundry aired publicly.
That being said, divorce mediation is not always for everyone. Here are some circumstances in which divorce mediation could prove challenging:
- Substance abuse: If one party is dealing with significant issues caused by addiction or abuse of substances like drugs or alcohol, this could make the divorce much more complicated and would make it unlikely you could expect responsible cooperation from that party in the mediation process.
- Spousal abuse: If there has been any form of spousal abuse in the marriage, mediation is not a good setting for settling the divorce. The power imbalance and intimidation that could exist would compromise what’s supposed to be a collaborative and equal process.
- Concealment of assets: If you suspect your spouse has been concealing assets, this would make mediation challenging because it indicates they cannot be trusted to play fair. You’re better off going for a different divorce method.
For more information about when divorce mediation could be appropriate and when it may not, contact an experienced Long Island lawyer at Solutions Divorce Mediation.