Don’t Fall Victim to Harmful Myths About Divorce Mediation

Some spouses, while recognizing the benefits of divorce mediation, believe that the process just is not right for them or their situation. Often, acceptance of commonplace myths about mediation has led couples toward costly, stressful litigation. Overcoming these misperceptions can be the key to a marriage dissolution experience that eases the burden on everyone involved.

If you’re considering the best way to resolve conflicts about alimony, child custody, property distribution and other aspects of divorce, you shouldn’t be swayed by mediation myths such as:

• The mediation process is no different than a settlement negotiation — It’s easy to confuse a settlement negotiation with mediation or to assume that clients and lawyers can reach consensus just as easily on their own. In fact, a neutral third party plays a key role by identifying creative solutions and serving as a voice of reason when parties insist on positions that are not legally supportable.
• Mediation prevents my ability to prove I’m right — Fictional portrayals of dramatic courtroom scenes should not be taken for reality. Decisions are not based on moral superiority but on considerations of fairness and what is in the best interests of the couple’s children. Instead of depending on a tearful admission by your spouse or a judge’s denunciation, mediation encourages honest communication and keeps everyone centered on the true legal issues.
• Unless the case is resolved, mediation has failed — Mediation is a very effective method of alternative dispute resolution, but sometimes a complete consensus is elusive. Even in these cases, however, substantial benefits can emerge from the process. With the guidance of a neutral third party, the spouses might reduce the number of disputed items associated with their divorce and each may gain an informed perspective on the other’s position.

Speaking with an experienced divorce mediator will clear up misperceptions and give you a better perspective on the benefits of the mediation process.

Solutions Divorce Mediation in Dix Hills, NY, assists clients throughout Nassau and Suffolk counties by providing comprehensive, professional services in all types of divorces. For a consultation to discuss your matter, please call 1.631.683.8172 or contact us online.