How Your Marriage Counseling Experience Can Help Your Divorce Mediation
If you’ve been through six months of marriage counseling but all you got were divorce papers, you might think your time and your money were wasted. However, that counseling could provide a silver lining because it could make your divorce easier and less expensive to settle in mediation.
According to the New Leaf Center, “Marriage counseling helps couples of all types recognize and resolve conflicts and improve their relationships.” The ultimate goal is to preserve your marriage, but even if that doesn’t happen, you can still reap benefits when these sessions help you:
- Improve communication — Marriage counseling can help spouses overcome bad habits they’ve gotten into that undermine healthy communication. Counseling teaches couples how to communicate and express differences of opinion rationally and respectfully.
- Identify areas of conflict — Couples often quarrel over insignificant matters rather than address what’s really bothering them. Counseling helps them to get to the root causes of conflicts that may lie beneath the surface.
- Expose parenting issues — Spouses often have different parenting styles or goals for their children’s formation. Through counseling, they can express their differences and come to a greater understanding.
Even if you leave counseling more certain than ever that you need a divorce, you may have built a foundation for successful divorce mediation.
In mediation, you attempt to resolve the important issues of your divorce — alimony, child custody, child support, and property — through a cooperative process. A neutral third party, the mediator, leads you and your spouse through open discussions focused on finding a mutually acceptable compromise for each issue. Mediation is generally much quicker and less expensive than fighting matters out in court. But mediation can only work if the couple is capable of working cooperatively. Your experience in marriage counseling can make all the difference in reaching that point.
To learn more about mediating your divorce, call Solutions Divorce Mediation, Inc. at 1.631.683.8172 or contact our Long Island office online.