Is It Ever “Too Soon” to Divorce?
People sometimes hesitate because they think it is too soon to initiate the divorce process, but most often, the opposite problem occurs and people wait too long. Whether the marriage has lasted decades or just a few days, spouses usually consider divorce only when attempts to save the marriage have failed or won’t work. At this point, taking legal steps to dissolve the union is typically the best way to avoid sinking deeper into emotional and financial distress.
In some cases, spouses probably should not have gotten married in the first place. We are all familiar with the social and family pressures that push people into flawed marriages. Emotions can play a part as well. The rush that accompanies a torrid love affair has some couples getting married before settling, or even discussing, key relationship issues.
Other times, life’s natural changes lead spouses in different directions. People evolve and so do many relationships. So, choosing to part shouldn’t be thought of as an admission of failure, but rather a mature acknowledgement that your priorities and lifestyle choices no longer match.
Prolonging an unsatisfactory marriage presents various risks and might lead to problems that will last long after an eventual divorce. Remaining married enables your spouse to threaten your financial stability and credit. Even worse, the constant strain and discord can erode your mental and physical health. Severe problems such as substance addiction or physical abuse do not disappear on their own. Removing yourself from a difficult situation is the first step toward meaningful improvement in your life.
In New York, you can file for a no-fault divorce after the marriage has been irretrievably broken for at least six months. Once the love has gone, every extra day that you remain together creates the risk of further financial and emotional entanglements that will complicate your eventual divorce.
If you are contemplating a divorce or have questions about the marriage dissolution process in New York, learn how Solutions Divorce Mediation, Inc. can help. Call us at 1.631.683.8172 or contact our Long Island office online.