Keep an Eye on the Future During Mediation

As you go through the divorce process, it’s understandable to be a bit preoccupied with the here and now. After all, you are going through what can be an emotionally traumatic process, and your present circumstances are almost certainly what are weighing most heavily on your mind.

That being said, you cannot get a successful outcome to your divorce mediation process if you do not also have an eye on the future. Only through good forward thinking can you negotiate a settlement result that will set you up for success in your future.

A couple things to consider:

• Do not dwell on the arguments: This is easier said than done while you are actually going through a divorce, but you should not dwell on arguments between you and your spouse or on the ways in which you perceive your spouse to have wronged you. Doing so will likely make it more difficult for you to remain serene in your negotiations and could result in you attempting to seek vengeance rather than get yourself the best outcome. Address current issues and move forward; don’t dwell on the past.
• Say yes: Take deals when they’re offered and they are beneficial for you. There are too many people who leave good offers on the table simply because they feel like saying “yes” will hand a victory to their spouse. Don’t think about it in terms of who’s winning particular issues; think about how the decisions you’re reaching impact your future positively or negatively.

Want to learn more about the various ways in which you can safeguard your future while going through the divorce process? Contact an experienced Long Island divorce attorney at Solutions Divorce Mediation with any questions you have.