Maintaining Open Communication May Be the Key to a Positive Divorce

Most divorcing couples have dealt with months or even years of disagreement that could not be bridged. That’s why, when divorce mediation doesn’t lead to quick consensus, it can be tempting for the parties to retreat to their own corners and choose to bring their disputes to a judge. However, maintaining communication, even in the face of early difficulty, can have beneficial effects for everyone involved.

Every divorce mediation is unique and the time required to resolve key issues varies. Regardless of the specific conflicts, keeping channels open offers numerous advantages, including:

• Helping attorneys focus on what’s important — Once the litigation process launches, each decision must be made with an eye toward the potential trial. Procedural issues and disputes threaten to overshadow the authentic differences between the spouses. Instead of sharing information that might break the impasse, lawyers are reluctant to give anything away. Through mediation, attorneys have a better chance to work creatively to find a mutually agreeable solution.
• Preserving your time, money and well-being — Avoiding the cost and time associated with a divorce trial benefits both parties. Perhaps even more important, spouses who are already dealing with emotional trauma don’t have to face the burden of testifying and having intimate details exposed in open court. This can be particularly important when a couple has young children who might be scarred psychologically by seeing their parents combat each other at trial.
• Eliminating unnecessary problems — In the adversarial process, each side must prepare for any issue or argument that might be raised by their opponent. Much of this is wasted effort, since most disputes between divorcing spouses center on one or two matters. The spouses as well as their attorneys are aided by eliminating unimportant matters and talking through the concerns that are truly keeping the parties apart.

Ending a marriage is much more than a legal proceeding. While you need a court order to formalize the divorce, a courtroom is not the ideal setting for the complex emotional, financial and parenting issues that often arise. Committing to open communication through the mediation process helps many New York couples achieve a comprehensive resolution.

Solutions Divorce Mediation in Dix Hills, NY provides professional mediation services to clients throughout Nassau and Suffolk counties. To schedule a consultation regarding your situation, please call 1.631.683.8172 or contact us online.