Questions to Ask a Potential Mediator
If you want a successful mediation, start with the mediator. You are more likely to settle if you choose someone with experience and practical communication skills.
Here are some important questions to ask your potential mediator to assess whether they will work for you.
- How long have you been a family law mediator? Generalist mediators handle all cases, from family law to personal injury. Since family law is especially sensitive, you want someone specializing in divorce and child custody or at least taking those cases as a majority of their caseload.
- What are your fees? You and your spouse likely wish to keep the mediation within budget. Ask about fees before you begin and see if the mediator requests an upfront retainer fee before starting. Keep in mind that flat fees often cover a set number of hours, and you may face hourly charges if you exceed that limit.
- How do you approach mediation? Mediators have varying strategies. Make sure your choice takes an approach that works with your situation. For example, if you and your spouse have trouble discussing things rationally, you may want a mediator who places you in separate rooms and acts as a go-between.
- How long will it take? The time required for mediation varies between cases and the number of issues in your divorce or child custody case. So, your answer to this question will likely be an estimate. However, in most cases, mediation takes less time than litigation.
- Will my kids participate? Some mediators want to speak to your children and see how they feel about possible custody relationships. If your child likes to share opinions, this arrangement works well. However, some kids would rather stay out of it. Consider your children’s temperaments before committing to a mediator who involves your children.
The experienced Long Island divorce lawyers at Solutions Divorce Mediation offer skill and experience for your divorce or child custody case. Contact us today to learn more.