What to Ask Your Potential Divorce Mediator

If you want a successful mediation, start with the mediator. You are more likely to settle if you choose someone with experience and effective communication skills.

Here are some important questions to ask your potential mediator to assess whether they will work for you.

• What is your background? Many mediators are current or former family law attorneys. But there is no requirement for mediators to have a legal background. While a lawyer may be your best bet if you are concerned most about child custody and visitation, finding a CPA mediator may be a better choice if your divorce challenges are mainly financial.

• How long have you been a mediator? Never hesitate to ask how many cases a mediator managed or how many of those involved divorce or child custody. You also want to choose a mediator whose experience includes writing marital settlement agreements, so you do not have to worry about drafting this complex document.

• What types of cases do you handle? You may feel more comfortable with someone specializing in family law cases, especially divorce. Divorce cases are unique in their long-term impacts and emotional effects.

• What training have you completed? Mediators can choose training in family law, divorce, and child custody. Ask about training in your primary area of concern. For example, if you are concerned about child visitation, ask what they learned regarding parenting plans. If your state requires mediator certification, ask them about that as well.

• Do you hold virtual mediations? Online mediation has advantages and disadvantages, but it also ensures everyone can be available. Ask even if you think you will not use this option.

• What are your fees? Mediators usually charge by the hour. You may find someone who charges a flat fee or charges by the session. Even if you face sticker shock, remember you are splitting this fee with your spouse.

To learn more about divorce mediation and see if our firm is a match for you, contact the experienced Long Island divorce lawyers at Solutions Divorce Mediation.