Mediating Child Custody on Long Island

Protecting your child from the stress of divorce litigation

If you are going to get a divorce, you’re probably thinking about how you can manage it to have the least impact on your children. But there’s no way around the fact that divorce can be very disruptive to a child, arousing anger and confusion. However, there are strategies you can use to minimize the emotional stress your child goes through, and mediation is one method to consider. At Solutions Divorce Mediation, Inc., our trained divorce mediators have experience with parents of children of all ages. We guide you through the process so you can achieve a manageable custody and parenting-time plan that fits the specific circumstances of your life.

Why choose mediation for child custody?

Mediation offers many advantages over divorce litigation when it comes to resolving child custody disputes. For one, mediation preserves your privacy. It’s intimidating enough when adults have to take the stand and testify in open court about private aspects of their lives. It can be traumatic for a child. Even if the judge hears a child’s testimony in chambers, simply going to court and talking to a judge produces stress your child can do without. Additionally, if you litigate child custody, the court may order a psychologist to examine your children and prepare a report for the court.

But aside from the potential stress, embarrassment and loss of privacy, the most important reason to litigate child custody is to take the decision out of the judge’s hands. Our family court system is ill-equipped to manage custody decisions, because the judge simply doesn’t have enough time to learn and absorb all the pertinent details of your family’s life.

So, who knows your family better than you do? Who knows your child’s habits, interests, talents, and special needs better than you do? Why surrender the decision to a stranger who is only going to read a counselor’s report and ask a few routine questions?

Mediation lets you keep the issue of child custody under your control. Working with a neutral mediator, you and your spouse decide where your children live and go to school, whether custody is sole or joint, and who gets the final say on what decisions. Together, you can devise a parenting plan that truly fits your needs, that considers all the nuances of your life, and allows your child to transition smoothly to life after your divorce. Finally, a mediated decision is one you and your spouse own, so both of you are more likely to abide by its terms as you move forward.

Learn more about mediating child custody with a free initial consultation

Child custody is often the most contentious issue in a divorce. But at Solutions Divorce Mediation, Inc., our experienced mediators can help you and your spouse cooperate to reach a manageable agreement that serves your child’s best interests. To learn more, call 1.631.683.8172 or contact us online to schedule a free consultation. Evening and weekend appointments are available, 7 days/week.